One thing that some married couples forget when discussing divorce is that it does not have to be a hard, complicated process. Instead, an amicable divorce is possible, as long as couples avoid some common mistakes that can throw a wrench into the process.
Agreeing to an amicable process at the beginning
The first step is agreeing to be amicable upfront. If both couples can agree that they will enter the divorce process from a place of seeking amicability and mutual problem solving, it will increase the possibility that an amicable divorce will actually be achieved. And, more importantly, it will go a long way in ensuring a successful co-parenting relationship, post-divorce.
Alternative dispute resolution
Second is choosing a divorce process that is more amicable. A good way to make a divorce more amicable is taking it out of the litigation process entirely. This is usually done through mediation. In the mediation process, an independent, third-party acts as the mediator, who facilitates both parties (and their lawyers) reaching amicable solutions on divorce related issues. This can be done for the entire divorce process, including property division, parenting plans, custody arrangements, etc.
Staying positive and not attacking
Next, it is important to stay positive. Keep those people around that are positive and do not attack the soon-to-be ex-spouse. This includes on social media. Do not insult or even speak about the ex-spouse or the divorce process, generally. It is one of the quickest ways to destroy this newly created amicable co-parenting relationship.
For our Jamaica, New York, readers, the key is entering the divorce with the goal of maintaining a positive co-parenting relationship with the soon-to-be ex-spouse. This extends to the property division process and the years of co-parenting to come.